"Love": between a man and a woman; my thoughts..

I have heard it all from;she uses me for my money to he just wants to be with me for sex. What happened to "love"? Have we lost sight of what "love" is? I do believe that, in this day and age, it does take more than love in a relationship. However, what happens when times get rough? What happen to helping out eachother, instead of using one another. To me, its' like buying people out of the store. It's crazy, lol. The whole point of the matter is how can we get back to "loving eachother" and taking our problems to "God". I'll take it back as far as our childhood days and the structure of the household.Which we do not have today. I think that society has placed a tremendous,huge, pressure on "growing up too fast". It all starts with the upbringing at home. Many young adults, and even teens have defined the relationship by "money" and "sex". I am not sayingthat they are not important, but what about morals, self worth, and marriage? I am not talking about that overnite get hitched type of  celebrity wedding, lol. I'm talking about that wedding taking place as a result of up's and down's, real love, stay by your side when your sick on your bed side, "type of love". It's all about communication , number one. Number two, the trust has to be there. And last but not least, the love for one another. It takes two, on many levels in a relationship. When you uplift one another, and split up the bills and do it together, it's alot easier. Anything is possible,once you keep the Lord first. I do believe that it should be a 50/50 thing. There should be enough to share and always plenty to give to eachother. Whether it's emotionally, spiritually, mentally , or even physically. It may sound clich'e,but a "family that prays together, stays together". When you give God control of what is beyond your control, he makes it all work out for the good and according to his will. God has to be "in the mix", of it all. We need to get back to "loving eachother", holding one another, doing the two step, no grinding, but something "sweet and sincere", "genuine and true". I know we have aour issues, but it's all about compromise, take the good with the bad. For all of the rest of the problems in the family, take it with a grain of salt. let "God" be your marrige counselor. Nothing worth having, takes place over night. It takes time,patience, and yes, patience is a virtue. When you want something with quality, and worth tremendous value, it takes work. It just doesn't come to you.Think about it. What ever you want from your partner, should be of equal value. You both need to be on the same page,so there is no confusion.Every trial and tribulation is a test, to see what you can stand as "one" together. Some can handle the hardships, and some couples can't. It is also good to know eachother before taking that big step. Marriage isn't for everyone. This is just my thoughts, I am not a counselor or expert on couple situation issues, just wanted to say that before I said anything else.  How about this, what happened to holding hands instead of making out in the elevator or in the park,lol. Unless you want to keep it spicy, ok, I don't judge. I have done that before,lol, it's nothing wrong with both, I won't lie, I tell you the truth. If you think I'm absurd, I understand, or maybe even disgusting, hey, that's ok. I just want to keep it real with you. "I have come along way from where I used to be". I'm ready to have "one partner". I'm done with the promiscuity in my life. It's "old" to me. I am, "ready to be loved", and share my love and everything I have to offer with that next partner, if "God" wants that for me. If not, "it's good to be single". It just means that I have more time to spend with the Lord, and devote my time to serving him, and that's fine too. To make a long story short, all I want to stress is, get to know the Lord for yourself, and watch how; "everything falls into play". The road won't be easy, but he "wouldn't bring you this far to leave you".On that note, I hope you all are inspired by this blog and remember, God is not done with you yet, keep on moving and just keep living. Godbless you all. One love. One body. One Accord. In the matchless name of Jesus, AMEN.

" A new day"

It's a "new day". I woke up today, and thought, who will I inspire? What was my dream trying to tell me? Am I making a difference? All of these questions, and many more come to my mind. I think about all I have done, and what are my new goals, aspirations/dreams. I apparently have got to the point where I refuse to "stop writing". I have to "pour out my heart", until someone gets the message. If I was writing, my pen would "bleed". I look at life as a "growing tree". This day was made and created by God, and we are all here for a purpose, "each day". I think my mission is to uplift you. There were times when I felt "defeated", "felt less than nothing", "ridiculed", "made fun of", and also "heartbroken". I am a walking, living breathing being that has experienced just about all of the emotions as you have felt. I am writing to tell you, you are not alone. Through allof the rolercoater rides that you will experience, are step by step building blocks. We all need "balance". If life was easy, how would we know what it was to appreciate what we have , life would be boring. Without challenges, we would not strive for anything. Each day I wake and you wake, is a new day for "new beginnings" for each chapter we are living in our lives. It doesn't always "feel good",or "look good" every day, but I will always keep in mind that it will all help in creating me to be "stronger" and "wiser". As I face each day, the new days ahead will -"get better". It just takes time. Time heals all wounds and it also shows our "growth" and "vitality" in every situation. I think we should all keep in mind that, if we have breath in our body, we are able to do the "impossible",by taking it "one day at a time". So, take life as it comes, rush nothing, because fools "rush in". Take your time to prepare for what you want by making a few plans to choose from and execute each of them one by one. If Plan A doesn't work,, try Plan B, and so forth. I hope you all remain focused, keep going no matter what, and know that, "God has got your back", as long as you put the Lord "first" in all you do. Godbless you all and stay encouraged*:)

"The Rubies of our Earth"

Good day to you, my fellow blogger's and blogette's. Today, I have truly acknowledged what it means to many of our families to have a "grandmother". I really enjoyed attending and I am thankful that I was also able to witness it , because I was invited by my close friend Imani.Over the years, and throughout my life I always have had the chance to have many figures that taught me alot.They were not always family, but other grandmothers and mothers of my friends families and people I would meet on an ordinary day!I am truly blessed, beyond words, because not only do I have a grandmother, I had two grandmothers. Unfortunately, one passed away. Her name is Sonia Tavarez. She was a strong woman, from the Domonican Repbublic. I have always admired her and loved her cooking.She taught me how to be independent, how to speak a few phrases and words in spanish,and in the mist of all that- she "loved me to death", and always protected me. At times, I wonder if she is proud of me. I never got to say goodbye.I think that the hardest part for me, was knowing she wasn't coming back, is not being able to say "I love you", one last time. I wonder if she knows how much I "miss her" and how she is missed by family and friends.Some of us are not fortunate to see our grandparents, but I discovered that no matter where you are or who you are or where you come from-blood is not the only way we are connected to people. We are loved and taken in to be loved by people who are not realted to us, but love us because we share a bond that goes beyond blood, but it's a thing called "unconditional love". I think that once you have a person who loves you, even if they are not your grandparents, but can be your grandparents, treasure them .I say this because, you neve know when the day or the hour they will be gone. When your grandmother of grandfather or caregiver dies, they can't smell the flowers you buy for them when they pass away. So, treasure them, talk to them and always remind them that they are needed and that you love them. The grandmothers are "rubies" in every family. Why? It is because they withhold the "wisdom" and keep the family together like "glue". I have heard, from that evening ceremony by the speaker that Grandmother's were the back up plan, and God knew what he was doing , he made no mistakes.They have all the great stories to tell and make the best food in the world. They always love you and have the answers to the questions you just dont feel comfortable asking any one else. I believe that is the "truth" and I hope you are all able to treasure your grandmothers, before it's to late. Godbless you all, and continue to love, because love conquers all.*:)